I had a situation where I was struggling with a leader (who was actually over me) and we always seemed to pull in two totally different directions. She finally got tired of me and decided to step down. I could tell based on the situation that her decision was made because she was quite frustrated with the relationship we had and how we were communicating (and so was I). We met for lunch and talked. Wow!! What a difference that one conversation made. We both let our guards, anger, and frustrations go and just talked to each other trying to understand where the other was coming from. We learned so much in that conversation and learned that we are really on the same path more than we thought... we just had to understand each other, what actions and reactions we have, and how we each interpret certain things. Had we had a "meeting" to discuss this either alone or in the presence of our pastor or someone else, I don't think it would have been so successful. The unintimidating, relaxed atmosphere of lunch allowed us to be ourselves and not just the person with this or that position. Soooooooo, I've said ALL that to agree with Angie. A good one-on-one conversation without any pre-conceived ideas would probably do the two of you some good. BUT, don't take my suggestion. Pray and see if this is for you. God's timing is so very important!!
As far as your choreography slump, I know just how you feel. There are several exercises you can do that may help. I suggest that you play your music, forget choreography, and just dance with no plans, no refined moves, no nothing. Just dance to the song and unto the Lord by yourself. Loose yourself in the message of the song as you dance to Him not just once, but over and over. Then, after a few days (still listening to it in your car, at home, etc.) begin to choreograph. I believe you will see and feel a difference.
Man! I wrote a book!! Sorry. Too long for me to go back and proof read, so I hope it makes sense. :-)
Karmel