Linda,
I'm not trying to be mean, just honest. The only thing you need to be doing right now is not drinking and for that you should be joining an aa group. And maybe if you give it up, your family will be more willing to help. After all, they can't make you stop. You have to do it all by yourself. It's your responsibility, not theirs. You do what you need to do, do your part, and then maybe they'll do theirs.
Good luck to you,
Ronda