g, i was NOT 'excluding' myself....and you are correct, "one can't smash any other ego than one's own....i should not have posted about the discussions the two of you were having. it was none of my business. and i realized, after the fact, that it was reflecting my own frustration of not understanding all of the discussion
i am very willing to learn about my subtle and not so subtle ego. this is how we 'see/learn'.
always my love, patti